today i was talking to a friend about life things and she reminded me that it’s OK that i know what i want and to not settle for less.
which in this case means realizing that i am better than a fallback/standby for a dude, and better than someone who doesn’t put me first (which maybe he doesn’t even like me but if he doesn’t then he needs to just GTFO and stop hangin’ out)… and so for now i am just going to stop asking him to come to things and be part of what i am doing because i don’t need someone who is going to waffle around about it.
and i don’t need someone who isn’t going to be impressed that my name was in the sunday new york times and who can’t even figure out life and who doesn’t think i’m pretty (because i might not be to everyone but i should at least be to someone who i am hoping to date) or at least doesn’t say he thinks so.
and i don’t need someone, just anyone, because when i do have “someone” it is going to be someone who gets my sense of humor and who doesn’t care about spending every snowy weekend in the mountains and who understands my love of electronic dance music and who might even dance along even if he thinks it’s silly. and he might be better at some things than me and i might be better at some things too and sometimes we’ll be even steven and it’ll be just how you want to spend your life with someone else.
but i’m not going to spend time on people who clearly don’t have time for me so BYE.
You gotta remember that changing your outside won’t do shit for your inside. If you don’t like and accept yourself now, you won’t like or accept yourself 20lbs up or down from here. Embrace your body, love it, cherish it, accept it, then work on it.
“I just want someone who won’t get annoyed when I text them six times or in all caps. Someone I can go on long drives with and can sing along to the radio with. Someone I can eat pizza with at 2am and kiss at 6pm. Someone who chooses me everyday and never thinks twice about it.”—it might sound cheesy but i do this stuff so…
men like girls who “don’t know they are beautiful” because they are afraid that one day you will realise that you are the sun and the stars and he is nothing but a discarded plastic bag clogging up the ocean that you are
when you get hit with the sads at the wrong time and you can’t tell whether it’s the weather or something bigger.
i don’t think too poorly of myself most of the time but sometimes i just feel like i am not good enough at all. my brain says, that is stupid, you are great! my heart says, we hurt, we are alone and no one likes us. it’s obviously not true but sometimes something seems to be missing.
so i know, i’m being whiny but it’s tumblr so if you can’t whine where can you, right? it doesn’t help me feel any different but it makes me feel a little better.
Eat food from farmers markets.
Drink good tea each morning.
Read books that make you feel.
Paint, even if you’re awful.
Write, even when you have nothing to say.
Sit in the fresh air outside.
Go on hikes.
Swim in lakes and wade in streams.
Sleep as long as you need.
Work hard at what you love.
Work hard at what you hate.
“If you look at the fact that you have a roof over your head, food to eat, that you are young and beautiful and live in a peaceful land, then no, you have nothing to be sad about. But the fact is, we are not only a physical body, we have souls too, and sometimes our souls get sick. If you break a leg you don’t just say ‘I have no reason to have a broken leg’ and ignore it; you seek help. It’s the same when your soul gets hurt. Don’t apologize for being sad.”—My doctor when I told her I had no reason to be sad (via splitterherzen)
Basic definitions are inherently an issues because of just that: they’re basic. You can’t reduce living and breathing concepts like racism and sexism to a couple of words in the dictionary. Millions of pages of theory has been written about these concepts and they should not be simplified. If necessary, use these quick definitions to establish a baseline for your understanding, but do not under any circumstances limit your exposure to just that.
“If by a “Liberal” they mean someone who looks ahead and not behind, someone who welcomes new ideas without rigid reactions, someone who cares about the welfare of the people-their health, their housing, their schools, their jobs, their civil rights and their civil liberties-someone who believes we can break through the stalemate and suspicions that grip us in our policies abroad, if that is what they mean by a “Liberal”, then I’m proud to say I’m a “Liberal.””—John F. Kennedy, Profiles in Courage
“Someone once told me that human beings have three dimensions: how you see yourself, how others see you, and how you want others to see you. The closer the distance between the three dimensions, the more at peace you are and the more stable you become.”—Marwa Rakha
“I realized that I have spent so many years being on a diet that the idea that you might actually need calories to survive has been completely wiped out of my consciousness.”—Helen Fielding, Bridget Jones’s Diary
“If a female student got drunk and had her car stolen the university would call the police. If she got drunk and had her computer stolen, they would call the police. If she got drunk and had her phone stolen, they would call the police. The fact that she was drunk would not even be factored in when assessing if a crime had been committed. But if she gets drunk and has her body invaded and her humanity stolen, school administrations are perplexed about what to do.”—
The violation of women is treated less seriously than the theft of her belongings. From this, we can gather that our physical and mental well-being is not considered to be as valuable as tangible property.
In other words, women are *less* important than objects.